How often do wives cheat? Why wives cheat on their husbands: reasons, opinions of scientists. Why men cheat

A woman is the keeper of the home. Nature pushes her to start a family, have children and maintain order in the house. A man is a hunter, a breadwinner, a male. Therefore, he cheats on his woman more often than she cheats on him.

This is a common belief. It is also a delusion. In connection with freedom of morals in modern society. The wife also cheats on her husband quite often. What pushes her to cheat? Why do women cheat?

The sad statistics of infidelity

Approximately every third family experiences betrayal. Moreover, cheating on women is not uncommon: the statistics are not encouraging. About 75 percent of men cheated on their wives at least once. Women are practically not inferior to them. Approximately 60 percent of wives had affairs on the side.

Psychologists are sure that spouses begin to cheat in their sleep. Other partners persistently appear in their dreams. In reality, various factors can push someone to cheat. Lovers and mistresses are more often found at work or while on vacation.

The consequences of external communication may be different. Casual sex happens to both husband and wife. Both spouses are capable of falling in love with a new passion. But wives go to their lovers more often than husbands go to their mistresses. Every woman thinks about cheating at least once in her life. Men are more persistent in this regard. Approximately ten percent of men have never even thought about cheating.

It turns out that our polygamous husbands are able to remain faithful throughout their lives. And we, at least in our thoughts, are capable of treason.

Emotional dissatisfaction

The candy-bouquet period is far behind us. Life has become a series of responsibilities. Washing, cleaning, cooking, children. Some kind of vicious circle. And the loved one became stingy in expressing emotions. Often refuses household chores. Practically does not help in raising children. Affection, attention, support... All this somehow smoothed out. It became invisible.

Conversations with my husband boil down to discussing the next purchase or planning home renovations. Such relationships suit women less and less. She needs emotions. But she doesn’t receive them from her husband. There are two ways here: resign yourself and continue to live in a routine, or look for a partner on the side.

Noticing attention to her person, the woman is transformed. I like her again. She is desired. Romance and interest appear in her life again. And most importantly - emotions. A new relationship allows a woman to regain faith in herself. The genuine interest of men always transforms the fair sex.

What is the way out of this situation?

For men. Don’t forget that you love your wife, ten, fifteen, and twenty years from now. Don't skimp on affection. Give gifts. One interested look from you can make your wife put on an evening dress and have a candlelit dinner. Instead of evening gatherings in front of the TV, invite your spouse to the theater, cinema, or just for a walk.

For women. Remember that in the family you are the neck. Wherever the neck wants, the head will turn. I mean, your husband. Have occasional spontaneous romantic evenings. Have sex in the car. Invite your husband to take a bath with you. Go to the sea together. Just the two of us, no children. Discuss not only household chores, but also your feelings and emotions. Encourage your man to express his thoughts. It is in your, feminine power to revive dormant feelings. Why, when a person dies, does his wristwatch stop? His time on earth is over. Don't let your relationship stop. Give impetus for development, then time will continue for your family.

Sexual restlessness

In an era of free morals, a woman is not ready to simply satisfy a man. She wants to enjoy herself. What if this doesn't happen? The wife begins to accuse her husband (to herself, of course) of lack of sensitivity to her needs. And not every man recognizes this dissatisfaction.

Going to bed? It's coming. Shows emotion? Manifests. Having an orgasm? It seems like yes. He doesn’t even know that women can imitate. Well-established life, constant sex. What else do you need?

And the woman is silent. And at one point he solves the problem with a new partner.

How to find a way out?

For men. Be considerate of your partner. Experiment. It's easier for you to go for it. You are a man. A woman may be shy.

For women. Don't be silent. Talk about your desires, your problems. There is a loved one next to you. He will understand. Problems in sexual relationships need to be solved, not hushed up. And you cannot do without the help of your loved one.

Desire for revenge

Fortunately, there are few vengeful women. But they exist. Having learned about their husband's betrayal, they hide the resentment deep in their hearts. They continue to be nearby, sleep, raise children. And when an opportunity presents itself (the attention of a handsome man, a drink, company), the woman decides to cheat.

She is driven by unsatisfied resentment, a desire to rehabilitate herself in her own eyes, to restore her significance. After all, a husband’s betrayal is a blow to one’s pride and feelings.

What's the solution?

For men. Never cheat on your loved one. For you, this could be an affair on the side. And for her - betrayal. If this happens, then do everything so that your wife doesn’t find out.

For women. Did you find out about the affair, but still live together? It means you love your man. Find the strength to forgive. Revenge is a low feeling. In forgiveness lies wisdom and love.

For both. If you can’t cope with the situation, but want to save your family, go to a psychotherapist.

Unfounded accusations

There are very jealous men. They literally see betrayal in every step of their woman. A trip to a restaurant or a get-together with a friend turns into a real nightmare. There seems to be no reason. And the wife tries to give all her free time to her husband. But no. Still jealous.

The unreasonable jealousy of some wives unsettles them. I'm tired of the constant nagging. She is tired of proving her loyalty. It's better to change it. Then there will be something to endure scenes of jealousy for.

A woman is not looking for a lover on purpose. It happened that way. A worthy man was nearby. He takes care of her for a long time. Why not justify your husband’s jealousy with him?!

How to find a way out?

Unfortunately, you will not be able to convince your partner not to be jealous. Jealousy is in a person's blood. Its main reason is lack of confidence in one’s own attractiveness, one’s own sexuality, one’s own strengths. If you cannot convince your husband of this yourself, then contact specialists. Explain to the man that you can no longer tolerate unreasonable scenes of jealousy.

Fell in love

No one is immune from this feeling. It can strike at any age. I know a woman who fell in love for the first time at fifty-five. She was married for more than thirty years. Not without changes. But she stayed with her husband for the sake of the children. Widowed. And a year later I found my soul mate. When a new feeling burst into life, she realized that she had not loved until now. There was affection, there was respect, there were children, but there was no real love.

Some women leave their family for new love. Some remain.

In such a situation, he probably isn’t. Every person experiences love in their own way. For some, their duty to family and society outweighs, while others go ahead.

Marriage is a goal that many young men and women strive for as a sign of confirmation of their love and fidelity. Modern statistics of infidelity in Russia and other countries are shocking and the question arises: where does former love, purity and devotion disappear?

After the wedding, all newlyweds hope for a long life together, full of happiness and love. Unfortunately, the times when divorce was rare and infidelity was frowned upon are a thing of the past, and today many couples face betrayal and infidelity on the part of their life partner.

Psychologists have found that devotion and trust are the fundamental foundations for a happy marriage.

Statistics of cheating in Russia

At the moment, Russia occupies a leading position in the world in the number of divorces, overtaking Ukraine, the Netherlands and Belarus. Thus, more than 90% of marriages break up, and half of them did not last even one year.

Conducted social surveys have shown that there may be several reasons for the dissolution of a long-awaited union: alcoholism, drug addiction, lack of own living space, inability to have children, as well as interference of relatives in family life.

The main cause of divorce is infidelity, and perhaps it is a factor that reduces the desire of lovers to get married at all.

The statistics of infidelity in Russia look completely disappointing: almost 75% of men cheat on their wives during their life together, while 25% of the weaker half of humanity seek consolation and support not from their legal companion, but from lovers.

Married

Just 20-30 years ago, marriage was considered something sacred and intimate, but today, due to falling moral standards, people do not value family structure. As a result, not only the husband and wife are unhappy, but also their children.

According to an analysis conducted by sociologists and psychologists, factors leading to infidelity in marriage include:

Sexual dissatisfaction in marriage.
Fading feelings and searching for new love.
Long separation.
Self-doubt, which is satisfied with the search for an “affair on the side.”
Revenge.
Influence of others. (2% of women and 0.5 men who are married cheat on their partner on the advice of friends or acquaintances).

Seemingly ridiculous reasons lead to shocking data across the country and also lead to a wrong view of marriage and family. Every year the number of adultery, as well as divorces, increases, because of which, first of all, joint children suffer.

Men

Statistics on male infidelity in Russia show that about 60% of husbands date mistresses who are also married and only 11 percent have relationships with single women.

Thus, the term “mutual infidelity” comes into play. These disappointing data are often associated with the inability of spouses to solve joint problems and compromise. In addition, passing hobbies increase the risk of sexually transmitted diseases.

Despite the fact that many want to hide their misdeeds and continue to “play” as a happy and devoted family, relationships on the side sooner or later become known to all family members.

Only 3% of men are ready to marry their mistresses. At the same time, about 30% of sons imitate their father’s behavior; accordingly, girls take their cue from their mother.

Women

Despite the fact that men cheat more often, women do not remain blameless in this matter. In Russia, almost 70% of women have relationships with married men, while 12% of wives have affairs with neighbors and infidelity occurs right within their own walls.

The motivation for infidelity can be very different:

absence of husband;
dissatisfaction in your own marriage;
alcohol intoxication;
holiday romance;
a response to a spouse’s rudeness or betrayal.

We can conclude that if a marriage breaks up due to infidelity, both spouses are to blame for this, who found an easy way to satisfy their own desires, in the hope of avoiding the difficulties of family life.

It is also worth remembering that if there has been infidelity in the family at least once, the likelihood that a son or daughter will commit something similar in their own family is 85%.

What about them? Infidelity in different countries

Cheating is a common phenomenon not only in the countries of the former USSR. Adultery is widespread in America, Italy, Sweden, France, England and Germany.

Divorce statistics in the world are the main indicator by which one can judge the fragility of a modern marriage union.

The highest divorce rates were noted:

Maldives;
Belarus;
Belgium;
Ukraine;
Portugal;
Czech Republic;
Sweden;
Hungary.

If we combine the statistics of infidelity and divorce, we can conclude that infidelity plays a decisive role in the lives of many families around the world.

Some countries have high penalties that act as a deterrent for many men and women. For example, in Muslim countries, treason is equated to a crime, which is punishable by law up to the death penalty (Iran). In modern Turkey, an unfaithful spouse can be sentenced to 5 years in prison, in Indonesia - 15 years, and in Afghanistan - up to 10 years.

Facts from history confirm that female infidelity was the most punishable at all times, since no one wanted to raise someone else’s child and pass on an inheritance to him.

The decline of moral standards and the lack of judicial punishment in the modern world leads to an increase in cases of adultery and divorce. In addition, in recent years, the growth of monogamous marriages throughout the world has increased, and in some countries they have become legal.

Is it possible to overcome the current family crisis in many countries? Of course, it is necessary to reconsider family ideology, both individually and within the state.

What in Russia is called a problem of family relations, in other countries can be considered as immorality and a sexual crime, so you should not look for excuses after committing adultery and blame your once beloved life partner for imperfection.

Video: Infidelity in marriage

However, today in relationships everything is turned upside down, and just as often as the opposite sex, experts say.

Family psychologist, interpersonal relationship consultant, director of the dating agency “Me and You” Elena Kuznetsova says that, according to the latest sociological studies, today men are more monogamous, while a woman can have two or three partners at the same time. And female infidelity today, alas, is not uncommon.

“Scientists say that modern people are like men. They do not consider an affair to be a betrayal of their partner just because they are looking for a more successful breadwinner, hunter, and so on. Since men are getting smaller, a woman, through bed, is also looking for a more profitable match. We're not talking about feelings here. This is purely a business relationship,” states the psychologist.

Chasing the Prince

If we do not take into account nymphomaniacs, then in most cases a woman, like a man, goes to the side if something does not suit her in the family: her partner is bad in bed, gives little money, does not pay any attention to his lady etc.

It is not difficult for a modern woman to decide to cheat if the new chosen one, as it seems to her, is better than her legal husband. Or he may be of exactly the same status as his spouse, but more romantic and more gentle towards the woman. If a potential lover offers a young lady something that she does not have or something that she currently wants, she will follow him. Even though the new man may actually turn out to be much worse than his husband, he will tell the lady a couple of compliments that she hasn’t heard at home for a hundred years, and thereby bribe his counterpart.

“Very often a woman invents problems for herself. She doesn’t want to fight for her husband, talk to him, because she doesn’t believe in any changes on his part. It’s easier for a wife to concentrate on a new man, especially if he poured honey into her ears. We hear what we want to hear. And we see what we want to see. And often husbands are a hundred times better than lovers, but their wives just don’t really look at them,” says Elena Kuznetsova.

Sex - yes

Women decide to cheat even when they... This often happens when spouses are the same age, but the husband, for example, is less temperamental, or with age he begins to have problems with potency, and the woman is still in her prime.

Leave so as not to return

Women cheat on completely different men; it all depends on the ambitions of the lady herself. Some representatives of the fairer sex can endure the most worthless man by social standards all their lives just because he is hers. And for some, it seems that her man is not rich enough, and they find a wealthier gentleman.

When deciding to cheat, a woman admits the idea that she can leave her current husband forever for another man. And this is the main difference between female infidelity and male infidelity. Representatives of the stronger sex, when they go on a spree, most often do not want to ruin their family.

“Women experience their own infidelities more easily and leave their husbands faster. Ladies have a more flexible psyche, they are more corrupt,” explains Elena Kuznetsova.

At the same time, the psychologist notes that a woman always stands up for the stability of relationships, and will decide to leave her husband only if the new chosen one calls her to follow him. She will follow him to .

Cunning conspirators

In terms of hiding infidelity, women give a hundred points ahead of men. It is much more difficult to catch ladies cheating because they are more cunning. They carefully cover up the traces of the “crime”, taking care of all the little details.

However, it is still possible to catch your wife cheating. Usually her usual daily routine changes, she is often not at home, she becomes more well-groomed, even if before that she always carefully looked after herself. In addition, a woman often takes her anger out on her husband because, as it seems to her, he interferes with her happiness. The husband becomes an active external irritant for the lady. Plus - she doesn't want to have sex with him at all.

Don't retreat, don't give up

You should never admit to cheating. Unlock to the last, even if you are backed against the wall. And in general, any woman, even if she walks from her husband right and left, should tell her husband that he is the only one for her and that she loves only him. Oddly enough, almost all men believe in this.

Useful information

Elena Kuznetsova, director of the dating agency “I and You”, family psychologist. Phone 8-920-909-62-35.

Return of the Shrew

If, having learned about his wife’s betrayal, he nevertheless decided to forgive her, a new period begins in family life. The spouse, of course, will never be able to forget about the betrayal, but a smart man will have enough brains not to reproach the woman who has returned to the family for this. After the reunion, both need to talk frankly and find out what specifically did not suit the wife in the relationship. A woman should keep in mind that when talking about the reasons that pushed her to cheat, she gives her husband certain instructions on how he should act in the future. A man will take this instruction specifically. That is, if a woman says that he gave little money, he will fulfill all this with precision in the future. And if by “attention” you meant flowers and going to the theater, and your spouse simply began to spend more time with you at home, then don’t blame me.

If you have questions for psychologist Elena Kuznetsova, you can ask them by writing a letter to the editorial office of AiF-Vladimir: [email protected].

Both men and women are prone to infidelity. However, different reasons push them to cheat. Representatives of the stronger sex crave novelty of sensations; each new partner seems more interesting to them than the previous one; and women violate their marital duty because their husbands do not pay attention to them, do not admire them, do not give flowers, do not give compliments...

Gray hair in the beard...

The portal SuperJob.ru conducted a survey on the topic of what are the reasons for cheating and how they affect family life. Judging by the results of this survey, men cheat more often than women (28% of the stronger sex versus 17% of the weaker). Most often people over 40 years of age go for this (32%). The presence of children in the family does not stop lovers of affairs on the side: those with offspring cheat twice as much as those without children (26% versus 13%). As income increases, the desire to go “to the left” also increases.

Do good spouses exist? Fortunately, yes. The survey revealed that the strength of family relationships is still highly valued by our fellow citizens. 70% of married women have never cheated on their husbands. Among men this figure is 53%. Young spouses under the age of 23 are most sensitive to the concept of fidelity. Here are typical answers from people who remain faithful in marriage: “I love my husband/wife very much, I don’t plan to cheat,” “We have been living together in love and harmony for more than twenty years, we want to preserve our feelings.”

Why do men cheat?

Representatives of the stronger sex admit that they are looking for relationships on the side, mainly due to dissatisfaction with family sexual relationships. The reason for going “to the left” is most often the desire for new impressions and sensations. Unfaithful husbands justify their desire to taste “strawberries” with physiological and psychological characteristics inherent to the stronger sex: “I’m a man, a male!”, “Everyone does this, I’m no exception.” It's no secret that men are attracted to everything new. They are designed this way, because their natural task is to fertilize, to place their genes. Therefore, the new woman excites them more than the old one.

By the way, representatives of the stronger sex perceive the fact of betrayal much more painfully than women. This is explained by the fact that each of them wants to be sure that he is providing and protecting his offspring. This instinct is genetically fixed in men. In nature, the same thing happens: males do not favor strangers, drive them out of their territory, and do not allow them to approach their females.

The famous sexologist, psychotherapist, candidate of medical sciences Alexander Poleev divides men who enter into extramarital affairs into three groups.

Representatives of the first group breed cupids 2-3 times a year. Novels last relatively short time, from two to five months. The man carefully keeps secrets and hides his affair from his wife. And if she reveals herself, it is not his fault. After the end of the affair, the spouse remains faithful to his other half for quite a long time. However, he remains on friendly terms with his former “shuram-muram” partner.

Representatives of the second group do not have long-term affairs. They are content with one-time sexual contacts that happen on business trips, at parties, corporate events, on vacation - wherever the situation is favorable. A wife almost never finds out about her husband’s “cute pranks,” unless he inadvertently reveals himself.

Finally, the third group unites the most malicious cheaters. They have affairs on the side throughout their lives - from the first years of marriage to the end. They never openly tell their wife about this, but they don’t really keep secrets either. The duration of their romances varies greatly: with some they date for a couple of weeks, with others for a year, with others for three. It is characteristic that they have practically no breaks between successive connections: as soon as one ends, another soon begins.

By the way, an interesting detail. The partners of inveterate cheaters do not correspond to their social status; on the contrary, they are always below them on the social ladder - these are saleswomen in a stall, couriers. (Whereas in ordinary romances, men choose partners from approximately the same social circle).

Another characteristic nuance. In these relationships there is no emotional uplift, passion, or love. This is simply a sexual relationship that is purely carnal in nature. A man does not have the desire to spend a lot of time with his partner, for example, to go on vacation with her, on weekends, to go to the theater, etc. He does not even always spend the night with her. Here relationships are built according to a different scheme: you come, enjoy yourself and leave. By the way, such a connection is most often broken by the mistress, dissatisfied with the superficial consumer nature of the relationship.

Malicious cheaters are hidden sadists. They will never directly tell their wife that they have another woman. But they tell her about this in other ways: they carefully look after themselves, dress well, sometimes they bring home some gifts from their mistress and say that they were “given at work.” In words they deny their infidelity in every possible way. But on a non-verbal level they make it clear to the wife what is really happening. At the same time, they are caring husbands, provide for their family with dignity, and pay attention to the child.

What drives women to cheat?

Representatives of the fairer sex are driven, first of all, by dissatisfaction with the family situation, conflicts, and the inattention of their spouse. They are pushed to cheat by rudeness, indifference, disrespect from their husbands and, as a result, the desire for revenge: “I paid him back in the same coin,” “I took revenge for his jealousy, endless accusations and suspicions.”

Women have another motive, and it manifests itself more often than men. Often they cheat because they met a new love that captured them so much that they lost their heads. In men, this motive is less common.

It is inherent in every woman that she should be seductive and excite members of the opposite sex (after all, her genetic task is to give birth and continue the race). If the husband stops complimenting his wife, then she “withers” and begins to doubt her attractiveness, sex appeal and feminine irresistibility. This leads to the fact that she begins to look for confirmation of this on the side. Female infidelity is always a sign of despair.

Women need compliments, attention, each of them wants to feel not only a wife and mother, but, first of all, a Queen - desirable, dizzying. Thus, she is looking not so much for a new relationship (which is typical for men), but for a better one.

How to reduce the risk of cheating: advice from professionals

With whom do men and women cheat most often? “Future lovers meet mainly at their place of work,” says Candidate of Philosophy, sociologist Anatoly Zaitsev. - It is there that 28% of husbands and 31% of wives find their mistresses and lovers. But often on vacation: 20% of men and 34% of women. On business trips - 10% men and 2% women. There are also some adventures in the place of residence: 4% of husbands have neighbor lovers and 10% of wives have neighbor lovers.”

Experts believe that there are a number of rules to reduce the risk of betrayal. Sexologist, psychotherapist, candidate of medical sciences Alexander Poleev reminds: “Remember that your husbands, no matter how domestic they are, are inherently interested in new women. Do not keep your husband in a state of sexual dissatisfaction, even if you are sure that he hardly needs sex. If you yourself, due to habit, have somewhat lost interest in intimate life, then imitate it, take the initiative yourself. Sexual intimacy with a 35-40 year old husband should be at least twice a week. Don't leave him alone for long. Do not go on long business trips or spend vacations separately. You are convinced that for three weeks of your absence he will lie on the couch and watch Eurosport. In fact, most men experience a “ninth day panic” and begin to frantically search for a partner for sex. And God forbid, if he meets a “hunter of married people” - then your family life will end!”

He is echoed by Candidate of Philosophy, sociologist Anatoly Zaitsev: “A long-term absence of a partner (a business trip, one of the spouses going to a resort, illness) pushes 11% of husbands and 9% of wives to cheat. Among other motives, I would mention an attempt to test one’s sexual capabilities, to make sure of one’s own attractiveness (10% of husbands and 6% of wives). Cheating under the influence of random circumstances: alcohol, partying in a group: 12% of men, 5% of women.

There is another important factor: the lifestyle of the parents. It greatly affects the relationship between spouses. If both parents cheated, then the probability that their son or daughter will also not be faithful reaches up to 80%.”

Inna Kriksunova, for Fontanka.ru

In romantic films, the newlyweds at the wedding read the “oath of fidelity,” which includes promises to love each other and be there for each other no matter what. But life sometimes brings surprises in the form of betrayal by one of the spouses.

The consciousness of society is structured in such a way that men walking “to the left” are taken for granted. This behavior is often justified by natural data, the inner essence of the male character - the “conqueror”. Therefore, a husband’s infidelity is rarely condemned by society.

But women’s campaigns “to the left” are considered something out of the ordinary and are condemned. Statistics show that the number of married girls who cheat on their loved ones begins to grow from year to year. What is the reason for female infidelity, how to deal with it?

If you study the behavior of lovers in a family, you can trace an extraordinary connection - the reasons for such actions in men and women contain different approaches.

The main essence of female infidelity

Some psychologists believe that for men, cheating is a natural process. Simply put, they follow nature, often striving to conquer as many representatives of the opposite sex as possible. A woman by nature does not have such a desire. They have another desire - to choose the best man. Simply put, in men's adventures the decisive factor is quantity, for women it is quality that matters.

If a woman meets a man on her way who is superior to her current lover, then she will give her heart to the successful representative.

Moreover, her husband can be a worthy person - he provides for the family, devotes time to her, takes care of the children. But the female sex is missing something, she is looking for this unknown something on the side, among other men.

Situations often occur when a wife cheats on a decent man, but does not leave him. What motivates her, why does she choose this path? What are the motives for female infidelity? Let's look into this rhetorical question.

Reasons for female infidelity in marriage

Having studied the features and differences between male and female infidelity, we will move on to listing the motives that push a woman to take this step. Taking into account the mentality of society, female infidelity is perceived aggressively by people. Therefore, in order to decide to take a step into the abyss, a woman needs clear arguments.

So what leads a woman to cheat:

revenge. Married life rarely runs smoothly. Housekeeping is accompanied by quarrels and scandals. But if for many couples issues are resolved mutually, then for some families, after a quarrel, there comes a moment when the spouse takes sides. Either the husband simply behaves ugly, humiliates the woman, drinks or gets loose. It will seem strange that the wife does not divorce and continues to live with such a person. Cheating can be an act of protest against a tyrant husband, an abuser;
disappointment. Relationships change, especially compared to the courtship period. A man who has won a girl calms down and stops paying attention to her. Instead of spending time together, the spouse simply immerses himself in the world of virtual reality or spends time watching TV. It can be difficult for a girl who is used to receiving attention from her lover to tolerate such a change in behavior. It’s hard to pull many young men out of the usual quiet swamp even for a walk together, keeping silent about visiting entertainment places. Cheating is a way to add bright colors to a gray everyday life;
bed relationships. Over time, sex among married people becomes something commonplace. Yes, and people's temperaments differ. My husband, coming home from work, wants to rest and be left alone. A woman, especially a sensual one, has a hard time with such changes in her loved one, so she thinks about cheating;
Men don't often show emotions. Especially after marriage, when the wife is at your side, already your own. Many men forget to compliment their partner, admire her beauty and other qualities. Most husbands take for granted all the household chores that their beloved bears - cooking, cleaning, ironing. It is rare that any husband is ready to simply say “thank you” for what his wife does for him. The contrast here is a man who is ready to admire every step, her action, he likes everything - isn’t this a reason to change?
early marriage. In Russia and other Slavic countries, girls still strive to get married as quickly as possible. Often such marriages are carried out hastily, the partners have no time to get to know each other. Because of this, disappointments subsequently begin in family life. If a young girl is not satisfied with her husband emotionally, morally or physically, then she takes an example from her unmarried friends - she begins to go out;
Whatever one may say, the saying about the forbidden fruit is still relevant. Over time in a relationship or marriage, many women reconsider their principles. But if earlier betrayal was not even thought of, then with the coming of time it becomes a desired action;
"Herd instinct" No matter how rude it may sound, such feelings often push a woman into infidelity. Various factors lead to this - statements, actions of friends, mass propaganda of unhealthy behavior through media channels, or something else. The result is the same - the wife takes a lover.

Psychology. Why do women cheat on men?

Women's psychology is designed in such a way that betrayal occurs as a result of the emergence of feelings. As it happens, the one who is nearby becomes annoying, seems unpleasant, annoying. The forbidden man becomes a real treasure for her, which makes her inaccessible. If he still shows truly masculine qualities, the woman begins to fall in love. Such loves pass over time and bring disappointment. But for some time the woman is sure that this man is her only destiny.

What is the difference between male and female infidelity:

feelings. For men, cheating is a physiological process; they do not need feelings to cheat. It’s different with women, the fact of physical contact is not so important to them, they cheat on their husbands only because they feel a feeling of falling in love;
choosing a partner. Male infidelities are characterized by less picky choices. Simply put, it is enough for them that their mistress is beautiful in appearance. Women don't cheat with just anyone. They take lovers from a list of worthy gentlemen;
story after action. Men who take a mistress do not get divorced. This is not profitable for them - life at home is organized, there are bright emotions and new impressions on the side. Why change everything if everything is great? For women, a different approach is typical. If they are in love, then they try to break off the relationship with their already unloved husband and build new ones with their lover.

How to prevent female infidelity in the family?

Women's adventures occur when a new feeling arises. Therefore, if adultery has already occurred, it will be difficult for the spouse to return everything back and achieve the former idyll.

The woman will most likely be ready to break off the relationship and plunge headlong into new feelings. To be honest, few men are ready to forgive their beloved for betrayal.

The opinions of psychologists on this issue agree; it is better not to bring the situation to the extreme boiling point, but to mutually start working on the relationship. There are different methods. But all psychologists agree on one aspect - if you leave family life as it is, with mutual claims and grievances, it is unlikely that you will be able to save the relationship.

Here are some basic tips for men that will help you establish contact with your beloved and significantly improve family ties without any visible effort:

take time for your loved one. Undoubtedly, work is exhausting, and when you come home you want only one thing - to rest, so that no one will bother you. But if you spend a few minutes with your spouse - ask how she is doing, what new happened during the day - it will take a little time, but it will restore contact and soften the heart of your beloved;
be more to her than a passport spouse. In order for a married woman to be as attached to her husband as possible - become her friend, father, lover - in general, she should receive all types of male help from you. If you can listen to her, give practical advice, nail a shelf, give affection and tenderness, she will not want to look for another gentleman on the side;
quarrel. A family in which all claims are hushed up and swallowed by the parties will not live long. It is impossible to accumulate grievances without exploding one fine day. Therefore, all psychologists unanimously say: there is a problem - it needs to be solved. Speak out your grievances, try to find a solution through joint efforts. And remember that you also need to be able to quarrel. Ugly shouts, insults and obscene language will not lead to a solution to the issue;
talk openly about the intimate side of life. Many couples are embarrassed to discuss their sexual problems with each other and what they like in bed. General dissatisfaction has a negative impact on relationships. Against this background, it seems quite strange that cheating with a stranger seems to many people to be a normal way out of the situation. Despite the fact that there were no attempts to talk to my other half. In practice, couples who dared to discuss intimate life discovered their partner in a new way, breathed bright colors into the relationship;
Respect is the basis of relationships. Remember this, try to pay maximum attention to respect. If a person does not respect his loved one, then the marriage is doomed to failure. Listen to your wife, tell her that you expect the same from her;
Do not plunge into the abyss of everyday problems. An established lifestyle sucks you in and deprives you of any desire to embark on adventures - that’s the problem. This reason leads, according to statistics, to a lot of divorces. Arranging a small surprise just like that is not difficult, but it’s so nice. Such moments are remembered best and improve the atmosphere between spouses;
Don't be overly jealous. Unfounded suspicions, constant nagging and total control are not helpful for healthy family relationships. The woman will get tired of receiving accusations of non-existent treason, and will actually commit it.

Pay attention! Female infidelity is an action that is preceded by a long preparatory period. Women’s move to the “left” is not made out of fleeting emotions; it is realized after a thorough analysis of the situation and many hours of painful thoughts.

Why do wives like to cheat?

Much has been said about the causes of infidelity, the components and differences in approaches to infidelity between men and women. It is worth noting that all ladies can be divided into two large categories:

those who cheated once by accident and are tormented by it;
those who see treason as everyday life and constantly have lovers.

One key difference emerges here. There are women who receive all these feelings without violating personal boundaries. But there is also a category that is not capable of diversifying life without going to lovers. Every day their need for variety is increasing.

Why does the wife want to cheat?

Among women there are also many who commit adultery not only because of feelings or cooled family relationships. Among the fairer sex there are ladies who are ready for infidelity, for the sake of:

careers. There are many examples when a big boss gets girls who are ready to do anything for a promotion as his mistresses;
wealth. The desire of beauties of the 21st century to live on a grand scale is not always realized in reality. The average man cannot provide a monthly flight abroad, holidays at resorts, shopping and other delights of life. When a rich lover is an all-time classic;
simply because she likes to feel the adrenaline and change men. Such women also exist. At the same time, she feels comfortable living with her husband, who belongs to the spineless class.

Consequences of female infidelity in marriage

All people know that cheating is bad. Few people are prepared for such a development of events. But you can never promise. A difficult relationship with your husband, a business trip, at a meeting with classmates or on vacation alone at a resort - there are a lot of options, but the result is the same. The woman is left alone with the betrayal and does not know what will happen next or how to deal with it.

Let's consider the consequences of female infidelity from the point of view of two sides - the state of a woman and a man.

What are the consequences of infidelity for a woman?

It doesn’t matter for what reasons this happened, after cheating there are many questions left: should I tell my husband or not? How to behave and what to do next? What should I say if he asks? Psychologists agree that it is under no circumstances worth talking about this, especially if the betrayal happened once, in other words, “by accident.”

You are not interested in continuing a relationship with someone else’s man, you don’t want this experience anymore, then you can’t tell your husband unequivocally. This will hurt his feelings and will lead to a change in the relationship between the spouses.

The husband will most likely show uncontrollable jealousy and constant suspicion. This is how everything will happen - he will torment you with questions - how it all happened, with whom and most importantly who is better, he will begin to constantly control you, find fault with little things.

The unfaithful woman herself does not feel happy. On the contrary, she begins to suffer and suffer. She is overcome by a whole range of emotions - shame, remorse, fear of being discovered. After the moment of betrayal, a woman begins to think about how and what to talk about, she introduces total control into her life. This exhausts her psychologically, emotionally and can lead to depression, neuroses, and nervous breakdowns.

For most women, cheating is an action that radically changes their life. But in order not to torment yourself with needless torment, it is better to carry out mental work on mistakes.

Think about why this happened? What emotions led to such an unpleasant act? What was the last straw? By reasoning logically, without unnecessary emotions, you can get to the bottom of the truth and try to solve the problem found in a loyal way.

To understand the accompanying emotions in more detail, let’s consider them using the example of the most common reasons for infidelity:

new impressions. Everyday life becomes boring over time, as do relationships between spouses, including sexual ones. There is no longer that ardor, passion, hot sighs as between the young. The spouse has already been studied inside and out. If the betrayal occurred from the desire to gain new emotions, then women are subsequently very disappointed. Taking into account the fact that all the subtleties of physical contact with a loved one have already been studied, a woman often experiences satisfaction in marriage with a familiar partner. This may not happen to a lover. And in general, does a woman have confidence that after several years of life the same thing will not happen to her lover? In general, some disorders;
male impotence. This problem is one of the most serious. Sexual impotence under stress is increasingly common in young men aged 30. Marriage, no matter how strong, must include sexual relations. What if the man you love next to you doesn’t want or can’t carry out such actions? Cheating with another will also not bring relief to a woman’s soul. If the relationship with your husband is good, then betrayal will cause a feeling of shame and self-deprecation about deceiving a good person. Is it worth changing - definitely not. It’s worth running to the doctor with your husband and trying in every way to solve the problem;
curiosity. No matter how strange it may sound, but interest in the unknown pushes women into bed with unfamiliar men. Frankly speaking, a woman can get real pleasure in combination with an emotional component. If you cheat just like that, then the woman will not receive any pleasure, much less happiness. In return, there will be remorse, a silent question - what was all this for?
revenge. Your husband cheated, and you decided to repay him in kind? Let's say right away that the path is fundamentally wrong. Afterwards, the woman will feel like a traitor, a deceiver in front of her husband. Will this analogy be pleasant? Not many will be happy with such prospects. If you want to take revenge, please, but outside of marriage. Otherwise, a woman’s action will be no different from her partner’s action.

What are the consequences of infidelity for a man?

If a man finds out about his wife’s infidelity, this deals a blow to his pride. A man’s self-esteem drops, jealousy and a decadent attitude develop. The very fact of betrayal tells a man that his companion does not respect his partner. Even if outwardly he is ready to forgive his wife and give her another chance, internally he will continue to be indignant, constantly remembering the betrayal.

As a result of dissonance, psychological disorders arise, aggression, inferiority complexes appear, and even sexual inability occurs. Such manifestations can be explained simply. By forgiving the betrayal, a man signs his insolvency. Because in the aspect of infidelity, a man pays attention only to physical contact. What is a fact of insufficient masculine strength if a girl chooses another man. He doesn’t pay attention to the romantic component at all.

Every man is an owner and perceives his wife (companion, girlfriend) as a trophy that was won in a fair fight. Therefore, the woman who cheated is no longer his prey, and this is insulting. The very attitude towards the traitor is expressed in complete contempt. Treason is nothing more than betrayal. If even in a relationship the wife could not resist, then how can we continue to hope for such a person?

Should we forgive a woman's infidelity?

This question arises among men who love their wife, but are tormented by the fact of betrayal. It is difficult to find a single answer for every situation. But let's consider it from the point of view of the psychological state of a man.

The husband is confused, embittered, depressed. If the infidelity is forgotten and the family tries to return to their usual way of life, it is unlikely that everything will be the same as before. Forgiveness for betrayal is difficult to achieve. In most cases, a man who has forgiven his wife becomes weak and pliable in the woman’s eyes. Such men are not respected, they wipe their feet on them and continue to cheat on them.

Thus, to the question of whether it is worth forgiving, the answer is unequivocal - it is impossible. Why to preserve your inner peace and dignity.

Why do you dream that your wife is cheating?

Dreams are a mysterious thing. Sometimes a man may dream that his wife is cheating. He is ready to transfer this situation to real life. But here's the problem. Dreams are a reflection of our hidden thoughts and experiences. Therefore, if in a dream you witnessed infidelity, most likely it’s all about increased jealousy and suspicion.

Analyze how worried you are about the possible fact of betrayal. Are there any prerequisites for this or do you only have your own speculation? If a man has such a dream and it is disturbing, pay attention to your wife, try to devote more time to her. This way you will find out about the absence or presence of infidelity, strengthen the relationship so that infidelity does not occur.

The topic of female infidelity is vast. It is difficult to draw one line under all situations. Each family has its own rules and characteristics, so not a single story of infidelity is like the others. But in this whole story there are important points that are worth summarizing:

Treason is a voluntary action. Despite the reasons that could lead to the commission of the act, the final decision is still made by the person himself. That's why you shouldn't blame circumstances. There is another way out of any situation;
men and women see betrayal differently. If for a man it is more important that a woman physically belonged to another, then for the fair half feelings come first;
to admit infidelity or not is a rhetorical question. You can’t give unambiguous advice without knowing the people and the details. But the old rule still applies: “the less you know, the better you sleep”;
What should spouses do after cheating? Should I forgive my wife or not? A question that haunts deceived husbands. If you decide to forgive and restore family relationships, the topic of betrayal should be forgotten once and for all. You cannot reproach her and, in the heat of a quarrel, try to inject your spouse more painfully with this information.

Attitudes towards infidelity are formed not only through public opinion. One’s own point of view is developed over the years, wisdom and understanding come. Therefore, the older people are, the easier it is to forgive betrayal. But it’s still better to avoid such a situation and try to correct it even at the moment the first alarm bells appear.