We write well: from idea to book. How to set goals for the year and achieve them. Personal example

They say that if you write down your goals into 100 goals, and not just dream about them in your mind, then they tend to come true. Is it true.
Also, they say that if you don’t wash your hair, it tends to get greasy.

You need to sit and visualize, watch motivational films. And the person himself will not even notice how he will become famous and independent - the main bastard in the house.

It will piss off everyone at home. Such a person will be independent even from the responsibility of taking out the trash, earning money and cleaning houses.
Freedom and financial independence.

Freedom to choose what to complain about: the state, Jews or unwashed hair.

The only goal that can be achieved without difficulty is degradation.

In all other cases you need to plow.

Life with and without goals No amount of bogus Harvard research on the 3% success rate of graduates will convince you to maintain a habit of living with goals. The reliability of research does not compare with personal experience.

With a specific goal, a person becomes not only more productive, but also feels better: as if he is in control of his life.

Feels progress, crossing out a subgoal each time, and the pleasure of realizing the work done.

Self-confidence and self-esteem grows - this is useful when it is low.

The best way to test all these claims is

conduct an experiment in your life
. Make a list of goals for 2019 and live by it..
If you haven't had this experience, this is a great way to learn something new about yourself and experience purposeful living.
If you don’t feel the benefit of such a life, go back to the old way.
List of 100 goals for the year
Shoot with a bow/crossbow/gun.
Run a half marathon.
Consultation with a psychologist.
Cycle 50 km in a day.
Two months to learn dance: hip-hop, step, salsa, contemporary.
Exercise: tell your reflection “I love/respect/appreciate myself and respect others.”
For a woman: set aside clear time for yourself - going to the salon, sauna, or seeing a stylist.
For a man: break a personal record - do more pull-ups / chest press / run further.

Financial, work related

Buy 5 books to improve professionalism.
Increase income by 20-50%.
Complete training in your specialty.
Take part in a professional conference.
Keep track of expenses during the quarter.
Study 5 lectures on marketing: Ilya Balakhnin.
View 10 interviews "Business Serkets" or "Business Arena".
Improve time management skills: implement practices from Time Drive or GTD.
Try 1-2 areas for future specialization in them.
Master a basic level related to your specialty.
Increase your area of responsibility at work.
Buy yourself a “toy” that you wanted as a child.

Friends and surroundings

Organize an overnight outing with friends.
Meet at a conversation club.
Play mafia 5 times.
Give a gift to a friend.
Buy a board game and play 3 times: Train Ticket / Colonizers / Carcassonne.
For women: give a friend a ticket to paintball/airsoft.
For men: give flowers to a non-close friend.
Congratulate your friend on his birthday with a video greeting.
Give a T-shirt with a cool print that is associated with your friend’s character.
Master active listening skills.
Go hiking with an unfamiliar group.
Control a boat/sailing yacht with friends.
Try extreme sports with your best friend.

Family, children, personal relationships

Have a romantic dinner in nature.
Give a ticket to a joint activity/master class.
Listen to lectures on relationships by Ruslan Narushevich.
Three weeks of forgiveness meditations for mom and dad.
Develop the habit for a month: count to 10; breathe deeply; listen attentively.
Catch moments when you don’t respect your partner.
Three new experiments in sex.
Study 2 volumes on child development.
Find a mini-hobby that is interesting to both you and your child.
Sex outside the home.
Learn and reread age-related tasks of the child.
Do Hellinger family constellation to a pressing question.

Brightness of life, impressions

Take part in a master class.
Increase your average score by 2 points on the wheel of life.
Drink coffee at the best coffee shop in a neighboring city.
Learn to do somersaults on a trampoline.
Go to the theater to see a production that is unusual for you.
Visit 3 exhibitions/art galleries.
Visit a big music festival.
Spend the night in another country.
New sensations: do not drink in the company of drinkers / drink in the company of teetotalers.
Drink tea while listening to live music in a restaurant.
Eat 3 dishes that are unusual for you.

Personal growth, intelligence, skills

Go to a conversation club.
Improve your knowledge of a foreign language.
Read 12 non-fiction books in a year.
Plan a month and live according to plan.
Carry out 3 days of timing.
Read the story in English: adapted or original.
Listen 5 lectures about the brain by Tatiana Chernigovskaya.
Master the basic course of Glavred.
Write an article on any topic from 7000 characters.
Take public speaking or theater courses.
Disassemble the books “Black Swan” or “Thinking, Fast and Slow”.
Learn to program: write a simple program.
Watch the original season of Star Trek.
Don't make emotional purchases. Buy in 2 weeks what you “sort of” want now.

Creativity and spontaneity

Read the book How People Think.
Make 10 origami from memory.
Draw 5 simple illustrations for the article.
Take 1-3 drum lessons.
Scream at the top of your lungs in the forest for a couple of minutes.
Have breakfast at a restaurant with something exotic.
Weekend travel: buy tickets one day before departure.
Play a simple melody on the flute.
Paint a cup and drink your favorite tea from it.
Wear an unusual item/glasses/hat.

Spirituality and Mindfulness

Create a personal mantra and repeat it for a month.
Practice for a month

What needs to be done before the New Year to make the whole year successful? Firstly, change the attitude in your mind “how you celebrate the New Year is how you will spend it” to the attitude “what goals you set at the end of the year, these are the ones you will achieve.” Today we will talk about goals.

To achieve a goal, you need to set it correctly.

Setting the right goals

The goal must be clear and specific

For example, increase income to 120,000 rubles per month. This is a specific goal. If you set a goal to earn a lot or simply increase your income, you are unlikely to budge. There are no specifics, the consciousness does not understand, a lot - how much? Tell him exactly how much.

Determining the optimal timing

For example, receive an income of 120,000 rubles monthly from October 2018. If the amount is still large and distant for you, but you want to earn exactly that much, then you can break the goal into subgoals. Let’s say, earn 70,000 rubles by February, 80,000 rubles by May, 100,000 rubles by July, etc.

The goal must be within your reach

If you set goals that are obviously impossible to achieve, then you will not achieve them. When setting goals, consider all your capabilities, potential, abilities and skills. Evaluate yourself adequately.

Action plan

In the plan, you will lay out point by point everything that needs to be done to achieve the goal. What are the specific steps? Maybe take some courses, learn something new, meet someone, talk, etc.

We move towards the goal every day

To realize your plans, you need to regularly perform certain actions and steps that bring you closer to your goal. An athlete trains every day to become a winner.

Goal setting notebook

Keep a notebook in which you write down all your goals, action plan and strategies. When we write down goals on paper, they are realized faster and easier. By writing something down, the mind immediately begins to process it. In addition, you will always see goals in front of your eyes.

Be decisive!

You may face obstacles. Never give up. You cannot achieve your goal by lying on the couch. There are no victories without defeats! Mendeleev failed the university entrance exams five times. However, it was he who created the table of chemical elements.

What prevents you from achieving your goals

Why do you think many people set goals, but only a few achieve them? There is a goal, a plan, a strategy, actions, but there is no result. It's all about negative thoughts that prevent you from getting closer to your goal.

We remove negative thoughts that interfere with the goal

This is an effective and fun technique by V. Zealand. Imagine a vacuum cleaner. Try to see it in detail - color, size, etc. It is desirable that it be large. It has two buttons, two hoses and two bags inside: with one you collect dust, and the other function is to fill it with rainbow energy. Let's call these two bags “dust collector” and “rainbow”.

They are of different colors, for example, one of them is red, the other is green. Hoses of the same colors. You visualize all this. The picture is bright and detailed.

With your inner vision, find the point where discomfort and negativity have accumulated - fear, some unpleasant experience, irritation, pain, aggression, etc. Place the vacuum cleaner brush on the place where the negative has accumulated, and imagine how the vacuum cleaner picks it up. All the negativity flows through the hose into the dust collector bag, and you feel that it becomes much easier.

When you feel that it has become easier, turn off the button, take out all the contents from the dust container and throw it into the fire. All the negativity burned away. You feel relieved. You have freed yourself from negativity and heaviness. Now we need to replace this empty space with something positive.

We turn on another button, it’s time for the iris to work. You now apply a brush to the place where you had negativity. The vacuum cleaner starts working. Rainbow energy comes to you through the hose, which heals you and fills you with the energy of life. Are you filled with energy? Turn off the button. Be sure to thank the vacuum cleaner for the job done.

Now you, friends, know how to work with goals, release negative emotions and create positive ones. Achieve your goals, be on the wave of success, but don’t forget about the price of your success - are you still happy?

Is success compatible with happiness?

I wrote a parable on this topic.

One day two students came to the Master. One of them wanted to know how to become successful, to which the Master answered him:

- Reach!

Another student asked a question:

- How to become happy? I achieved a lot, but I still didn’t have happiness. What do I need to achieve to make me happy?

- Forget about all your successes. Throw them away!

- But how can that be? — the first student was surprised, “you just told me to achieve my goals, and you’re telling him to throw away everything he’s achieved?” Why then do I need to achieve? Why do you give different advice?

— Because different people ask me. When I saw you, I realized that you have happiness and no success. I told you: “Achieve!” After all, you want to be successful, right?

- Yes it is. But what then to do with the other student?

— He had success, but he always thought that his success would make him a happy person. So I told him: “Forget about your success!” Happiness is a path, not an aspiration or an achievement. Success is the result. But if a person confuses these concepts, he misses either happiness or success.

- ABOUT! “I think I understand,” the student exclaimed. No amount of success will make a person happy, but happiness can make a person successful.

The master smiled and looked at the birds, freely soaring and disappearing into the cirrus clouds shimmering in the sun. The student looked at the Master and also threw his head back, feeling full and happy.

Being happy is a natural state. However, people make a cult out of happiness. They think: they will achieve this, and then even that... and they will become happy. Yes, perhaps they will achieve certain goals. Only happiness cannot be the goal, because happiness is a state of mind. Success is achievement.

Today we’ll talk about what’s important to accomplish this year. Now there is a wonderful and most favorite month - December. There is snow all around, everyone is filled with anticipation for the New Year. Usually it goes by very quickly. To ensure that it does not fly by too quickly, it is important to pay attention to some things.

The first part is the ability to make wishes and set goals. Moreover, these should not be just goals, but large-scale goals.

Look around you: how do people usually dream, what wishes do they make? This is a trip somewhere, buying something. That is, dreams and desires are very modest, cautious, as if we are afraid of large-scale things. What if it doesn't work out?

If you really want to change and improve your life, dream big

This is the first important component.

What goals should you set for the New Year?

For the year ahead, you need to set the biggest goals possible.

Why do big goals and desires work better than small ones? The secret is that big goals give us great energy. Big goals - a lot of energy, small goals - little energy.

If you set small goals, modest desires, then a huge amount of your energy is spent on fears, worries, worries, on things that have an unproductive effect on our lives.

It is also important to know that your desires always influence your loved ones, your loved ones. Imagine that not only your life, but also the life of your family will change if you begin to realize big, large-scale desires of the goal.

When you set big goals and make big wishes, this does not mean that you lose adequacy and realism. This suggests that you are expanding your inner consciousness, inner vision. You are ready to grow into something more.

PRACTICE

Right now, write down 10-15 big goals or desires that you want to achieve in the next three years. Write such wishes that make your soul and heart sing, that lift and inspire you internally. Make a wish for something that you have never thought about, that you have never even considered. Be proud of yourself. Imagine that you are more than you previously thought.

Have you written?

Now look at your desires, at your 10-15 goals that you wrote, and compare them with your financial strategy.

Many people mistakenly believe that great desires mean great stress and overload of the body. In reality, it is simply a failure to see that the financial strategy they are using is not suitable and that something needs to be done differently. There is a need to rethink and take a larger scale in managing your money more effectively.

What is a financial strategy?

This is the specific amount of money you receive per month, how you allow money to come into your life.

Think about whether you will be able to fulfill your wishes that you wrote in this way. Or do you need to change your financial strategy and say, “I want more! How can I do this? How can I change my financial situation? How can I help other people and have joy and do it with ease?

The secret is very simple. If you see that your financial strategy does not realize your desires and dreams, this indicates that you have stagnated, you have already worked out the bridgehead, the foundation that you have. You've done everything.

Maybe you got bored?

Maybe your soul asks for something more and your goals speak about it?

This means that it’s time to move to a new level of life - open a private practice, or get a higher-paying job, or open your own business. That is, do something that will light you up from the inside. A financial strategy for realizing your goals will be easy to build.

To avoid missing out on this great December and end the year well, you need to do two things:

First– write a list of 10-15 big, ambitious goals for the next year or even three years.

And second What's important to do is take a fresh look at your financial strategy. You need to plan new steps, specific steps of what you will do at the end of this year or at the beginning of next.

Felix Demin

Entrepreneur, traveler, surfer.

Many people ask how I manage to run several business projects in different countries (while living in Bali), travel around the world (54 countries), do 39 workouts a month (surfing and Workout), 25 meditations, read 14 books, master 25 English lessons, introduce two new habits, study 110 articles and videos on self-education, master one new skill, while devoting enough time to relationships and being happy every day.

I believe that sharing valuable knowledge is important and necessary, and I am giving you the most valuable of my experiences.

The purpose of this article is to be useful to you and make your life better. Anyone who learns something useful and applies it in their life will become a better version of themselves.

I’m sharing what I’ve come to so far through a compilation of other systems and ideas, experiments and work on creating my own system over the years.

Setting goals

This is how my time was distributed studying English in February:

1. New words added through the site - 2,650. Learn 300 new words.

2. Vocabulary - 8,746 words.

3. Hours on the site - 41 hours.

4. TED - 40 videos (40 + 2 in Russian).

5. Read at least one book: Eliezer Yudkowsky. New book: A Girl Corrupted by the Internet is the Summoned Hero? (4 hours 20 minutes).

6. Watch a video of what I usually watch: at least 8 hours in English.

7. Movies and TV series:

The Revenant - 2 hours 30 minutes;
Elementary (season 4, episodes 10–12) - 120 minutes;
Titanic - 90 minutes; 90 minutes have not yet been watched;
Deadpool - 1 hour 50 minutes;
Zootopia - 1 hour 45 minutes;
Gods of Egypt - 2 hours 7 minutes;
Walking Dead (season 6, episode 11) - 40 minutes.

Total: 12 hours 22 minutes.

8. Conversation practice with foreigners: 21 hours 30 minutes.

9. University of California at San Diego. Course Learning How to Learn: Powerful Mental Tools to Help You Master Tough Subjects (3 hours 10 minutes).

Total for the month: 82 hours 22 minutes.

I also add one-time tasks to this folder. Usually these are articles, reviews, TED videos, useful and other materials related to self-development.

Google Chrome has a handy extension for Wunderlist. You can quickly create a task. It will end up in the desired folder with the name of the web page and a link to it. This way you can save all valuable articles and materials and take into account the time spent on them per month.

On average, I spend 10 minutes on this task. At the end of the month, I open completed tasks in the “Self-Development” folder and count how many there are, refreshing my memory of everything that turned out to be useful for me this month.

Skills folder

I made a list of skills that I want to have by the end of the year and distributed them by month. To consolidate old skills, they are given a cyclical task repeated once a month.

I spend at least 120 hours on business development. At the end of the month, I analyze what gives the greatest ROI. I also consider what ideas I have implemented, what the results are from them, what can be removed from the routine, and what training is most effective.

For each day I write a report in this format:

N: 1 hour. We called Mikhail to automate calculations.
A: 1 hour. I started reading a book on scripts from a scriptologist whom Asimov recommended, thought about it and wrote problems.

There are three task formats:

T - turnover - repetitive tasks, the implementation of which I try to minimize.
N - new and useful tasks that are related to the development of the company, launching new projects, developing and creating something new.
O - training. This includes articles, trainings, and books on business. I always try to learn something new and useful, which I immediately implement into business and life.

At the end of the month I summarize the time and different types of tasks. I analyze what has been accomplished and what hasn’t, adjust the plan and draw it up for the next month.

Habits folder

I usually choose 2-3 healthy habits for a month and implement them. I write down in notes how the process is going. If it doesn’t work, I write down the reasons and eliminate some habits.

Every month I check the entire list of habits I have already acquired and how they are observed. If I don’t comply with them, then I analyze and decide what to do about it.

Relationships folder

This folder contains all the people who are significant to me: with whom I will communicate, regardless of where I am, with whom I will always be happy.

In “New Acquaintances” there is a description of the key moments of meetings, ideas, places with people with whom I met and talked for the first time.

“Not regular” are meetings with people who are not included in the list with a separate name.

I am writing all this to understand the development of my relationship.

Diaries

I write journals for awareness and to track how I change over the years, to preserve the moments of my life, to practice formulating thoughts in writing, which, in my opinion, is useful for many reasons.

I write every day, but in different diaries in different ways. Now I have about 9 diaries for specific purposes:

Personal diary.
Gratitude journal.
Relationship diaries.
Diary of happiness.
Diary of Truth.
Health diary.
Diary of a Surfer.
Mindfulness and Meditation Journal.
Training diary.

Thanks to the diaries, I was able to analyze the last years and did not find a single day when I was in a bad mood. For myself, I derived the formula for happiness from my lifestyle and habits. Following it, I manage to be happy.

It is very important for me to live happily. What I do gives me incredible pleasure. Seeing every day how I develop, how every day I get closer to the mission of my life - all this makes me truly happy.

Life is a boat floating on a river. You, of course, will sail along it, but you can take the oars, map and compass into your own hands to steer the boat. Or you can just watch where the river of life takes you.